Say It With Cake… Win a personalised Cake with Bakerdays

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Cake… Everybody Loves Cake!

Recently I have spoken about how I’m going through a bit of a low point with my mental health, I am on the mend at the moment and feeling a lot more positive. One thing that did help was how supportive people were being – there is also a downside of that and that is how I got to the lowest point. People would ask how I am and I would say, “I’m Fine” when we both knew I wasn’t. The biggest thing I struggled with was telling how I was feeling. It left us all in an awkward situation because people didn’t know what to say to me, I didn’t know what to say to people and I probably started shutting myself off from people for fear of awkward conversations.

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People would ask how I am and I would say, “I’m Fine” when we both knew I wasn’t. The biggest thing I struggled with was telling how I was feeling. It left us all in an awkward situation because people didn’t know what to say to me, I didn’t know what to say to people and I probably started shutting myself off from people for fear of awkward conversations. I know too what it is like being on the other side of these conversations too. I am rubbish at thinking of the right thing to say and have the fear of saying the wrong thing so just don’t speak to someone who’s clearly having a rubbish time.

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Now I have the perfect solution. BakerDays is a personalized service that allows you to send a cake to someone through the post. They have cakes for all occasions, birthdays, anniversaries etc. However, you can personalize them from the writing to the flavor meaning it is perfect for the introverts that want to show they care but don’t know what to say.

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I have tried the lemon drizzle cake and it was delicious! It was the perfect amount of moist and lemony. A beautiful treat to have with a cup of tea and a book! I was really surprised at how yummy the cake was after traveling all the way in the post. The best thing is the cake comes in its own tin that you get to keep and comes with balloons, candles and party whistles to help the recipient celebrate.

The cakes start at £14.99 and the best thing about them is if you order before 2pm you can select next day delivery! Perfect for those accidentally forgotten about celebrations.

Competition: Win a Personalised Cake!

Now over to you, I would love to give someone the opportunity to give a cake to someone to show they care. It may be to show someone who your not going to be with you are thinking of them on their birthday. It may be congratulations for a recent graduate or maybe even get well soon cake. I love the photo cakes you can get too. There’s one where you can put a photo into the famous Beyonce pregnancy shoot. What better combination than Beyonce and cake! Enter the competition via the Rafflecopter below!

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Thank You for Baker Days for sending me this cake and cheering me up and allowing me to run this fantastic competition.

How to have a Self-Care Day and Self-Care Pack Giveaway!

Self Care Pack - How to do a Self Care Day

It is important to have a ‘self-care or ‘me’ day’ – especially when you are feeling really really rubbish. You’ve got to remember you cannot give anything to anyone if you have nothing yourself. Lately, I feel like I have been running on empty, bottling up my stress and frustrations and making myself ill. I am trying to maintain the persona of someone who has their shit together. Someone who has it all under control whilst underneath I have been drowning in a sea of bullshit. I plan on writing a post all about this once I find the words to say.

Self Care Pack - How to do a Self Care Day

So I have taken some me days. Some self-care days. It is important to refocus myself and get back on track. As this week is Mental Health Awareness Week I thought I would share some tips and ideas as to how to have a self-care day and also I have a giveaway where I will be sending someone a self-care pack!

How to have a Self-Care Day

The thing is you will know yourself what you need. Some may need exercise, others just want to sleep, others will need to keep busy. Listen to your body if you are tired go sleep. Have a bubble bath in the middle of the day. Read a Book. For me, I cannot concentrate when I am feeling low. My mind is a flurry of ideas and thoughts – I currently have 15 tabs open on my web browser, and I have no idea what ones I need. So last night I went on Pinterest and printed out a whole bunch of printables and put them all in a folder. This has helped me compartmentalize my thoughts and to- do’s. I find that writing things down helps me massively. Here are some ideas from Zoe – You can find her blog Little Ray of Sunshine here

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Some other ideas are: Reading a Self Help book – ones I really enjoyed were Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin, Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod and Quiet by Susan Cain. These were easy to read and relatable; although I know for others they are not into that. Also, the app Headspace is really good for 10 minutes to chill out.

I have been anti -medication for a while; just because I thought that I wanted to ‘get over it myself’ but sometimes you need a little help and so I am on medication. However, you may want to look down the line of herbal medicine as well. I don’t claim to be an expert but I have heard that Red Reishi has good health benefits and can boost your immune system.

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Sometimes for me, all I need is to curl up on the couch with my duvet and cozy clothes. I love my Heat Holders socks for this. They keep me warm and cozy and are like a hug for your feet! I love to curl up with a cup of tea and put something on Netflix that I probably will then fall asleep watching. But that’s okay!

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Pinterest is full of ideas for inspiration of how you can take some me time. You can find my Anxiety/ Mindfulness Board here!

Giveaway!

Self Care Pack - How to do a Self Care Day

So now that I have shared some tips on Self Care, I felt that I would love to share some Self Care Love. I am giving away a box of Self Care goodies – Including a Pair of Heat Holders Socks (worth £5.99), A Months supply of Red Reishi Tablets ( worth £35.99), a Notebook from 2LittleBoys (my current fave stationery company!) some Colour therapy books and pencils along with other surprises for you to have a self-care day your way! 

To enter follow the instructions on the Rafflecopter below. UK Participants only.

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(Some of the products from this giveaway have been gifted by the companies to be part of this giveaway!)

Life through a Filter… Thoughts on Social Media

“Comparison is the thief of joy” Teddy Roosevelt

Filter

Hands up who has seen something on Pinterest and tried to recreate it, failing miserably. Then you question your self-worth and talents and evaluate the cost of all the materials you bought to make this one wonderful idea for your art project.

Who has seen someone you barely know, or perhaps don’t even know on Instagram and thought I wish I was them. They have it all together. They live an awesome life.

What about a former school friend or that person you were once in a uni seminar with that added you on Facebook and you’ve not quite gotten round to delete because they are always doing interesting things, share lots of photos from a holiday of a lifetime and think why is that not me.

Now, look at the flip side…

Hands up who has ever used all the filters on Instagram to post a photo that took 15 attempts to get quite right but still your gray hair and dodgy spots are still showing. You’ve written and deleted a post 10 times till you get the wording right. You exaggerated the truth to get the likes up.

Hands up if you can name any of the Instagram filters.

Hands up if you have a favorite.

Everyone Filters

FYI My favorite is Gingham with a touch of a vignette. Or you put it in black and white but you add a little bit of color back in! 

You might not even filter your photos, it may be your posts. I often find myself reaching a moment in my life, or even worse preemptively thinking about an upcoming event and thinking do I Snapchat or Instagram this? Do I share my funny thought on Twitter or Facebook? Because you don’t want to be that person that shares their life on more than one social media platform. That’s just too much. I accidentally after a few bottles of wine managed to add all my Facebook contacts on Instagram and lived to regret it. Then I thought why did I regret that? Why do I filter out my friends, we are either friends or we’re not.

Social media is wonderful, it’s brilliant at keeping in touch, engaging in discussion and debate, sharing funny moments, making plans gaining an insight into the world. For example, I love getting Snapchats from my brother and nephew. Or sharing silly in-jokes or memories with my uni mates on Facebook. Twitter is great for sharing teaching resources and ideas. Or getting in touch with other bloggers.  Instagram is a good way to see nice photos of people or bullet journal ideas. Pinterest is brilliant for recipes, blog ideas or wishful thinking.

There’s the flip side of this as well. Snapchat is a tool of cyberbullying and children sending nudes to each other. (I am a teacher so put up with this on a daily basis) Facebook is full of the “Some people…” “PM me Babes” sort of passive aggressive status’. Twitter is full of one person making a passing comment and everyone and their uncle jumping on the bandwagon. As for Instagram, the amount of times I have heard about couples arguing because one person has liked someone else’s photo on Instagram. Pinterest is just unrealistic expectations on life.

Social Media has good and bad sides. As with everything in life. Good in Moderation.

What we need to always have at the back of our minds is this is not real life, this is filtered. The pictures are filtered, the content is filtered. People choose what to post, how to post and who to share it with. For example, I have two separate Instagram pages, one to go along with my blogs (Juniper Daze if you fancy a follow!) and my own personal one.

The reason being that I try to limit, or filter out you may say, pictures of myself, friends and family. Mainly focusing on what is happening in my life. I do have a practical reason for this, I am a teacher and so I have to be careful about how much of my private life is ‘out there’. We did have an issue last year where some pupils got quite obsessed with my really interesting life they started looking through mine and my family members Facebook pages to the point I think they thought they were part of the family.

So because I do have 2 Instagram pages, I do double filter. On my blog Instagram, I like to post inspirational pictures, I blog and post about going on dates with my husband and how creative I am. On my personal Instagram, I share maybe the more realistic me;  like cooking super noodles for tea for our first meal as a married couple or my failed selfie attempts with the cat. As brilliant as these posts are I don’t want the whole public knowing – just those I’ve approved on Instagram.

Book Recommendation

I was thinking about this as I read the book In Twenty Years Time by Alison Winn Scotch.

This was one of the free Amazon Kindle deals. I never normally have high hopes for these books but this one is worth a read. It was about a reunion of college roommates and how they all seem to have different perspectives of each other and in reality, things aren’t going so swimmingly. We never really know a person based entirely on their social media. People are brilliant at filtering, putting on a front and vignetting the parts of their life they don’t want people to see.

5 Rules of Social Media

  1. Don’t covet thy neighbors Instagram or Pinterest Life.

  2. Don’t judge a person by their Facebook status.

  3. Don’t write veiled passive aggressive posts on Facebook.

  4. Don’t send naked pictures of yourself.

  5. Never hashtag on Facebook.